Friday, May 31, 2024

5/31/24

 Friday, May 31, 2024

In bed around 10 and up at 4 after many PSs. took my pill and ate my oatmeal at 4:30, realizing how fortunate I am to have the oatmeal, the blueberries and raspberries, and vanilla yogurt, with what riches I live and of which I take advantage,and take for granted, how often I am disturbed by this and wonder about the real economic, social, and political costs of our consumer society.  I think of the stunning, 10-minute-long, tracking shot in the checkout lanes in Godard's movie Tout Va Bien, his anti-capitlist, Anri-consumerist screed released 4 years after the t1968 turbulence in France (and much of the Western world).  My thoughts move from Paris, Chicago, and Mexico City, in 1968 to America in 2024,  yesterday's convictions of Trump, the upcoming political conventions in Milwaukee, and in Chicago, wondering what turbulence we can expect this year.




I'm grateful that Geri appears to have weathered the knee surgery well although she experienced quite a bit of discomfort afterwards.  She is such a trooper., strong in so many ways.  I'm hoping that she is getting a good night's rest as I write this.  I'm concerned that she may have more pain and/or discomfort today than yesterday, with all of yesterday's anesthetic effects worn off.  She was still sitting up on the sofa with her leg outstretched, elevated, and iced when I crashed and went to bed last night.  She gets around well with her walker, and standing and walking doesn't seem to increase the pain.   We had to enter the house through the front door becaue the stoop provided support for her walker that wasn't available at the backdoor or garage door.  I walked right behind her as she walked from the driveway to the stoop, thinking about how she walked behind me and pushed my wheelchair on our visits to the VA Geriatric Clinic and to the Rheumatology Clinic.  How much we rely on each other, especially me on her!  How much I love and admire her.   I was semi-crippled by the arthritis in my lower back by the time I returned from getting a bag of ice at Sendik's and her second prescription (aspirin?!?) from Walgreens.  I have to start using the Lidocaine patches to make myself more useful.

Trump's convictions and the media coverage.  I was a bit surprised that the jury came back with a verdict yesterday.  I had thought the deliberations would be longer, after 5 weeks of evidence and lengthy instructions.  The prosecution's closing argument, which lasted almost 5 hours and that I thought was surely too long, must have been terrific, as was the presentation of their entire case.  I think of what Trump must have paid his lawyers - millions to Todd Blanche, Emile Bove, and Susan Necheles - and what the assistant D.A.s  - Matthew Colangelo, Susan Hoffinger, and Joshua Steinglass -  are paid by their municipal employer.

The media coverage was predictable.  MSNBC and CNN had all hands on deck analyzing the case, mindreading the jury, and generally engaging in robust schadenfreude.  FOX and the other fascist outlets engaged in denial and magical thinking.  I instantly grew weary of the liberal talking heads repeating endlessly that DJT was found guilty of 34 felonies as if there were 34 different sets of behavior involved instead of one scheme, i.e., as if he were guilty of not only murder, but also larceny, and also burglary, and also arson and sedition! Dayenu!   34 different felonies!!!   Willie Geist on Morning Joe: "I think the prosecution hoped for but didn't expect a clean 34 for 34 sweep on every count, to get convictions on those." Tedious.  On the other hand, I watched the nasties on Fox and Friends - Ainsley Earhardt, Steve Doocey, Brian Kilmeade, and new and predictably Black guy Lawrence Jones - all outraged over the gross miscarriage of justice and weaponization of the justice system represented by Trump's trial and conviction.  They had Speaker of the House and Christian Fascist Mike Johnson as a guest touting how much money Trump and the Republicans are raising as a result of the convictions and suggesting that the U.S. Supreme Court should "step in" and "set this straight."  Amazing.  Tedious.

On this date in 1669, Samuel Pepys recorded the last entry in his famous diary.  He had chronicled the Great Plague of London, the Second Dutch War, and the Great Fire.  He wrote voluminously from 1660 to 1669 and, equally importantly, of his times and mores.  O tempora, O mores!  I think of him today and wonder why he did it, what at the end of a full day's work and other activities, he sat at his table and took up a pen or quill and wrote about it.  I wonder about his habit because I wonder about my habit.  Compulsive writing? Hypergraphia? Juvenal's "incurable writing disease"? Bipolar disease? I think of two little poems about writing.  The first is a haiku  by Katsushika Hokusai, A Poppy Blooms:

I write, erase, rewrite

Erase again, and then

A poppy blooms.

The second is The Three Oddest Words by Wislawa Szymborska:

When I pronounce the word Future, / the first syllable already belongs to the past.
When I pronounce the word Silence, / I destroy it.
When I pronounce the word Nothing, / I make something no non-being can hold.

Keeping a diary or a journal is an exercise in trying to preserve something of the Present as it becomes part of the Past in the Future.  Without some record of each day, the day will become Silence, Nothing in the Future.  What was I doing or thinking about on March 13, 1983?  or on July 20, 1968?  On my birthday in 2020?  No idea, not a clue, gone with the wind.  What was I doing and/or thinking about on this date a year ago?  My journal reminds me I was nervous thinking about my upcoming "double dip" at the VA.  I was also reflecting on the 3,000 sexual abuse lawsuits against the Catholic Church in California, including the Santa Rosa Diocese where in 2023 I had explored employment as its Communications Director.  I reflected on why I withdrew from the competition.  Journaling provides an opportunity to self-reflect, to think seriously about how we have lived our life, to make judgments about "things said or done long years ago, or things I did not do or say," to examine our conscience and confess our sins, to compare what we claim as our values with our actions.  Another poem is just a couplet, by Henry David Thoreau:

My life has been the poem I would have writ 

But I could not both live and utter it.

 


 

Thursday, May 30, 2024

5/30/24

 Thursday, May 30, 2024

I was in bed a little after 9 p.m. but was back up at midnight, realizing that again, as every night, I had forgotten to take my 10 mg. prednisone pill with dinner.  I got back up and took it, along with a vanilla muffin.  And as again as usual, I was pretty much wide awake in the middle of the night, neither sleepy nor tired.  I read two articles in The Atlantic, one by Charlie Sykes about DJT's Truth Social postings during the 'hush money' trial, and one by Zoë Schlanger about the mystery of cloud formation, structure, and dynamics.  By 1:30, I returned to the bedroom, not sure of my ability to fall back to sleep.  PSs at 3:40, 4:22, and up at 5:17, tired, to let Lilly out.  An unrestful night.  Prednisone? 

My overnight steel-cut oatmeal cooked for about 8 hours on "low" but was still good, with the delicious raspberries,  blueberries, and vanilla yogurt.

At 6:39 a.m., as I unsuccessfully tried to nod off, the train moving through Bayside sounded its loud warning and I thought of Hank Williams:

Hear that lonesome whippoorwill / He sounds too blue to fly

The midnight train is whining low / I'm so lonesome I could cry

I've never seen a night so long / When time goes crawling by

The moon just went behind the clouds / To hide its face and cry

Did you ever see a robin weep / When leaves begin to die

That means he's lost the will to live / I'm so lonesome I could cry

The silence of a falling star /Lights up a purple sky

And as I wonder where you are / I'm so lonesome I could cry.

It reminds me that I want to watch again Ken Burn's documentary on Country Music, which I enjoyed so much on first viewing.  It reminds me also how much I enjoyed listening to my Country Women playlist as I started painting again the other day: Dolly Parton, Patsy Cline, Loretta Lynn, Emmylou Harris, Roseann Cash, Martina McBride, LeAnn Rimes, . . .  A month ago I was wishing I were dead, this morning I'm thinking of Dolly Parton's Why'd You Come In Here Lookin' Like That and smiling.  Why'd you come in here looking like that? / In your cowboy boots and your painted-on jeans / All decked out like a cowgirl's dream / Why'd you come in here looking like that? Thinking of Patsy Cline singing Willie Nelson's Crazy, two great artists. He wrote it but she owned it, like Kris Kristofferson's Me and Bobby McGee sung by Janis Joplin.  KK wrote it, Roger Miller recorded it, but Janis owned it. The lyric "Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose" reminds us of the dual nature of relationships.  They tie us down and restrict our freedom of action but how empty life is without them.  Andrew Lloyd Weber, Love Changes Everything. Funny the things one thinks about just from hearing an early morning train whistle.



Prednisone, day 18.  Sleep problem, voracious appetite, some stiffness and discomfort in both shoulders, but good ROM.

Geri's knee surgery is today.  She says she is not nervous about it, and it appears she has slept well through the night,  but I of course am nervous about it, as I am about any surgery, especially one with a general anesthetic and especially one on any 80-year-old patient.  The drop-off time at the Orthopedic Hospital is 11:30. . . . I went to pick her up at about 4:30 with all apparently having gone well.  We got dinner at McDonalds and pick up a proscription at Walgreen's on the way home.  I have to pick up another one at at 8 p.m.  She is using a walker.  Deo gratias.

LTMW  I see a neighbor on his bicycle running his dog alongside him and I wonder whether that much running is good for the dog.  On my shepherd's crook, I see a brilliant yellow male goldfinch and his female partner still collecting cotton for nesting material while goldfinches, house finches, chickadees, and a song sparrow are enjoying breakfast on the tube feeder.  How interesting the two feeding styles of the birds are.  The chickadees fly onto the feeder like a flash, nab one seed, and dash off to open it and get at the meaty kernel.  The goldfinches linger on the feeder until they have eaten their fill, at least temporarily, one seed after another.  They aren't easily scared away by the arrival of most other birds or by nearby distractions.  A downy woodpecker munches on the diminishing suet cake.  Our beautiful little flying dinosaurs are fascinating.

I watch what I initially thought was perhaps a mating ritual between two house finches, the apparent female, briskly frisking her wings, accepting a seed from the male.  Now it seems like this apparent female may just be a fledgling being fed by its two parents.

At 8:30, a group of 4 adult walkers stroll by on Wakefield, one of the men pushing a stroller.  It's 53° and sunny, I should get out with Judy or Rachel, but I'm pooped.  I want to snooze.  It's approaching 9 o'clock and Geri is still sleeping.   We will leave for the hospital in 2 hours.  More walkers with their strollers and their dogs.






Trump guilty on all 34 felony counts.







Wednesday, May 29, 2024

5/29/24

 Wednesday, May 29, 2024

Last night, after a dinner of Cobb salad, I slept for an hour between 7 p.m. and 8 p.m., when I woke up to move a load of laundry into the dryer and to set up my overnight oatmeal.  In bed around 10, up at 3:30 for a PS and to lower the heat in the slow cooker.  My usual oatmeal + at 4:45 with 20 mg. of prednisone.  At 5:30, as I worked my way down the hallway to my bathroom, I almost bumped into Geri coming out of hers.  "How is it possible to have a traffic jam at this hour?." I asked.  Yet how often we bump into each other in our big house.😁  I nodded off at some point and was awake and up with the sounds of the Wednesday morning lawn crew at 7:20.  We've had so much rain this Spring, especially lately, the ground is soggy, saturated, and the grass is long and lush, the mowers (human and mechanical) working extra hard to cut it.

Prednisone's effect on sleep and appetite has turned me into a multi-breakfast gourmand.  At least 2 a day, sometimes 3.  Oatmeal & fruit early, CBH & eggs, a bowl of raisin bran or plate of toast later . . .  Fatty, fatty, 2 by 4, . . .

Prednisone, day 17.  I enjoyed a pretty decent night's sleep in bed, but I still have just a little bit of 'gimpiness' in my shoulders.  My biggest physical problem the last few days has been pain and tightness in my lower back.  I see Dr. Cheng in the PM&R Clinic this afternoon and will see if he can offer relief.

Complicity: Death from America, Death to America.  The unseen but widely-reported image of a man holding a headless child in the DP camp outside Rafah will symbolize the bombing of that camp by the IDF last weekend.  The bomb that triggered the fires and other lethal damages was a 250-pound American 'smart bomb, a GBU-39, manufactured by Boeing and others, probably launched from an Israeli-owned, American-built F-15 Eagle like the one in this photo, loaded  to the gills with GBU-39s.  Think of it: an aircraft that costs from $75 to 80M launched a smart bomb that cost about $40,000 to kill 2 Hamas officers and sever the head from a Palestinian child.   Just last month, the Biden administration approved the sale of about 50 F-15s to Israel for $81B.      From Wikipedia:

 Rafah, the southernmost Gaza city on the border with Egypt, houses more than a million people — about half of Gaza's population — displaced from other parts of the territory. Since Israel launched its invasion earlier this month, most have once again fled. Hundreds of thousands are packed into squalid tent camps in and around the city. Israel's bombing of Tal al Sultan camp for internally displaced Palestinians on 26 May killed at least 45 people and wounded more than 250. Al Jazeera’s Sanad Verification Agency has obtained images of fragments believed to be from the weaponry used in the attack. The photos show the tail of a GBU-39/B bomb, manufactured by Boeing. The GBU-39/B includes a jet engine from the M26 unguided missile, the agency confirmed.

The GBU-39 is not an incendiary but rather is packed with about 35 pounds of high-explosive munition.  It appears that the Hamas target that the IDF hit set off a secondary explosion that ignited the surrounding tents holding Gazan civilians. 

I have a vision of that video image of the Palestinian man holding the headless child blown up and carried by crowds of thousands of Iranians, Arabs, and others, shouting "Death to America!  Death to Israel!" Quaere:  what interests of the United States are being served by being joined at the hip with Israel and its racist government in its war in and on Gaza?

Sanctions against the ICC?  The Trump administration imposed economic sanctions and visa restrictions on personnel of the International Court of Criminal Justice because they investigated violations of international law, i.e., war crimes and crimes against humanity, in Afghanistan and Palestine.  Executive Order 13928.  The Biden administration revoked the sanction on April 2, 2021.  Many Republican lawmakers are calling for the reimposition of the Trump/Pompeo sanctions on the ICC, but yesterday the administration stated it opposed sanctions.

Robin Givhan on the words of war.  I have followed Robin Givhan's writings in the WaPo for years.  She writes beautifully, wisely, and warmly.  Today she wrote of military and political euphemisms, prompted by the IDF killlings in and around Rafah - Hiding behind words after the killings in Rafah: The language is a balm. It’s a way of allowing that certain deaths are unavoidable and therefore part of a cause whose moral standing remains unmarred.

The language of war serves as a camouflage that allows the truth to hide. It aims to make the horror of deadly conflict acceptable, or at least manageable. The language is a balm to the combatants, perhaps. A way of allowing that certain deaths are unavoidable and therefore part of a cause whose moral standing remains unmarred.

But such forgiving words fail to dignify the victims of war with the unforgiving reality of what happened to them. They were not collateral damage. They were more than casualties. They were individuals. And they were slaughtered.

In wars, too often the words that name the unconscionable act can fail miserably in conveying the truth about it. Not just in this war, but every war. It’s a struggle to reconcile the notion of “friendly fire” with the breathtaking reality of being wounded or killed by one’s fellow soldier. How does the shooter carry that staggering burden? And so the awfulness is wrapped in a euphemism that sounds almost neighborly. “Enhanced interrogation” sounds far more banal and bureaucratic than torture. . . 

Hamas fighters hide within the general population in Gaza. Israeli leaders tell the world again and again that Hamas uses civilians as “human shields.” It seems that the way around these shields has been to destroy them, whether those humans are in homes, hospitals or tent encampments. It’s far gentler on the soul to hear that a commander has ordered his troops to attack inanimate shields, these tools of battle, rather than unwitting adults and schoolchildren.

She mentions that the Israeli Jews who squat on occupied Arab land in the West Bank are called "settlers."  Why not "squatters"?  The Israelis like the notion of 'settlements' and 'outposts', but bristle at the term "settler colonialism." 

Accomplishment: (1) I walked down to and around the cul de sac.  I was 'lapped' by Suzuie Apple!  (2) PM&R appointment with Dr. Cheng. (2) I sent message to Dr. Chatt re cancellations.  (3) I enjoyed a longish conversation with Peter about my time in Vietnam and afterwards, part of a school assignment.  I ran off at the mouth - old age or prednisone?


Tuesday, May 28, 2024

5/28/24

Tuesday, May 28, 2024

I fell asleep on the recliner while watching some program on the TV, or rather while Geri was watching the program.  I awoke around 10:45 to turn on the slow cooker and go to bed, but I had trouble sleeping after a couple of hours and moved to the LZB recliner in the bedroom and may have slept for a while, though I'm not sure.  I moved back to bed at some point but was unable to sleep so I got up and moved out to the TV room around 2:30.  Simple insomnia???  I wasn't particularly painful or otherwise stressed but was unable to sleep.  Nor was I particularly tired or sleepy, but rather wide awake.  Prednisone???  When Geri had a terrible reaction to Macrobid/Macrodantin back in 1995, she ended up hospitalized for 10 days with pneumonitis, on a cortisone drip, and then on prednisone at home.  She was so wound up by the steroids that she literally was up in the middle of the night relining our pantry shelves with new shelving paper.  It took her almost 13 months to recover from the interstitial pneumonitis.  A dreadful experience but the corticosteroids undoubtedly saved her life.  These are thoughts that come rushing back at me in the middle of the sleepless night.  How thankful we were that she had stopped smoking cigarettes the year before the adverse reaction to the Macrobid. . . .  At 3, I let Lilly out into the drizzly early morning darkness, and at 4, I finally ate my oatmeal and took my 20 mg. of prednisone, hoping that whatever stimulative effect the prednisone might have would be overmatched by the narcotizing effect of the oatmeal.  By 5, as the sun was about to rise at 5:16,  I dozed off but was up at 5:35 for a pit stop and the start of another day.  By 6:20, the sun was at an altitude of 10°, heading due south to its meridian, high noon altitude of 69° at 12:49 p.m. CDT.  As I write, it is located at 59° ENE,  shining through the TV room, kitchen, and dining room into the sunroom where it will reappear later from the West.

Prednisone, day 16 and all seems well except perhaps for my excess energy and for sure for my incredible appetite.  Food, more food, the less healthy the better!😨😡😟

I'm grateful for our life-giving sun.

Yesterday: Miracle of miracles, I picked up a paintbrush yesterday and applied a few strokes of a titanium white underpainting to canvas I started months ago (an attempt to copy a Klimt)  and then neglected during my dark days of PMR.  Maybe I can start painting again.  Also, I have been doing a lot of writing in my journal since I started up again.  I'm wondering if all this revivification is a bit of mania or euphoria attributable to prednisone.

IDF kills 2 Hamas officials in a Palestinian refugee camp for internally displaced persons at a cost o 45 dead civilians. 

 Netanyahu says it was 'a tragic accident (or mishap).

Mr. Netanyahu said in a speech to the Israeli Parliament that Israel tried to minimize civilian deaths by asking Gazans to evacuate parts of Rafah, but “despite our supreme effort not to harm uninvolved civilians, a tragic accident occurred to our regret last night.” He accused Hamas of hiding among the general population, saying, “For us, every uninvolved civilian who is hurt is a tragedy. For Hamas, it’s a strategy. That’s the whole difference.” . . . Multiple videos from the same location after the strike, verified by The Times, showed fires raging through the night as people frantically pulled bodies from the rubble, shouting in horror as they carried the charred remains out of the camp. In one video, a man held a headless child as fire engulfed a structure behind him. . . 

But at least 45 people were killed by the blast and subsequent fires, according to the Gaza health ministry, including 23 women, children and older people. The ministry said that 249 people were wounded. . .

Dr. Marwan al-Hams, who was at the Tal Al Sultan Health Center in Rafah where many of the casualties first arrived before being transferred to nearby field hospitals, said that of the killed and wounded he saw, a majority were women and children.

“Many of the dead bodies were severely burned, had amputated limbs and were torn to pieces,” he said. 

 Proportionality???  How much worse can life (and death) get for the Palestinian Gazans and for the standing of Israel in the world's eyes?  And what are we to make of Netanyahu's admission of 'a tragic mistake' following the official IDF's statement that the attack was a targeted strike on a Hamas compound using “precise munitions” and “precise intelligence"?  The IDF also said “There were many measures taken before the attack to minimize harm to non-involved people.”  Pissing on our shoes?  And, BTW, I am wondering whether the munitions for this strike were American-made and American-supplied or financed.  And why the widespread fires?  Were the munitions incendiaries?  If so, why?

Mohammad Al-Haila, 35, was headed to buy some goods from a local vendor when he saw a huge flash followed by successive booms. Then he saw the flames. . . “I saw flames rising, charred bodies, people running from everywhere and calls for help getting louder,” he said. “We were powerless to save them.”
Haila lost seven relatives in the attack. The oldest was 70 years old. Four were children.  “We were not able to identify them until this morning because of the charred bodies,” he said. “The faces were eroded, and the features were completely disappeared.”

Ahmed Al-Rahl, 30, still hears the screams.  “I didn't know what to do to help people as they burned,” he said. Around him there were “dismembered bodies, charred bodies, children without heads, bodies as if they had melted,” he said. 


Spoon River's green burial.  Fifty years ago I bought my first house at 2316 East Newberry Boulevard.  I  kept rose gardens there, as well as a little rock garden of succulents, hens and chicks, and another garden of other favorite flowers, the species of which I now can't remember.  I do remember however having the thought that I wished I could be buried there in the gardens, uncorrupted by embalming chemicals, with my body merging back into the earth and nourishing new plant life.  I remembered this as I read the epitaph of Conrad Siever.  And though I won't be buried in my former gardens on Newberry, I have purchased a spot in the green burial prairie at the historic Forest Home Cemetery on the south side.  No headstone or marker other than my name engraved with many others on a large boulder on the green space's perimeter.

Not in that wasted garden / Where bodies are drawn into grass
That feeds no flocks, and into evergreens/ That bear no fruit —

There where along the shaded walks / Vain sighs are heard, / And vainer dreams are dreamed / Of close communion with departed souls 

But here under the apple tree / I loved and watched and pruned / With gnarled hands / In the long, long years;

Here under the roots of this northern-spy
To move in the chemic change and circle of life,
Into the soil and into the flesh of the tree,
And into the living epitaphs
Of redder apples!

O frabjous day! walking with Rachel.  I took a walk down to the cul de sac with Rachel and ran into our next door neighbor Debbie returning from dropping off 2 Afghan girls at thier school.  She and John are sponsoring the girls' families.  We had a good chat about any number of things, including John's wondering whether he may be needing a walker.  He and I are the same age, born within months of each other.  I mentioned to Deb that he is a inspiration to me with his disciplined walks each day.  I enjoyed the walk down the street, as usual, and turned on my Merlin app when a heard a bird chirpping I ccouldn't identify.  It turned out to be a loud House Wren, which I've never spotted around our house or feeders.  I also heard the usual cardinals, robins, blue jays, and mourning doves, plus a red-eyed vireo, which I also have not sighted personally.  It's a spectacular morning, sunny, dry  (after a nigt rain), and sunny.

Robin's nest.  A robin has nested in the berry tree next to our garage driveway.  She gives Geri and Lilly hell when they come up to driveway after their walk.

At Last!  I spent time in the basement mixing paints and trying to do something with the Klimt knock-off I started months ago, all while listening to my Country Women playlist.  I can tell it won't turn out the way I had hoped but I'm not bothered; my credo is each canvas, like each batch of bread dough or soup, is just an experiment.  Some come out the way we hope; some do not.  All is well, all is well.  It was so pleasing simply to sit at my workbench, mixing the flesh tone and blue paints, brushing them on in layers, and then cleaning the 3 brushes I used.  I hope to start painting regularly again, after months away.  Fngers crossed.




Geri has an Italian natural sense of design, composition, and presentation not only with her food dishes but with everything she does. like these flowers she brought in from her gardens.







Monday, May 27, 2024

5/27/24

 Monday, May 27, 2024

Memorial Day

In bed by 9:30 and up at 2:20 a.m. to turn the slow cooker down to "warm."  By 3 a.m., Lilly emerged from wherever she had been sleeping to be let out.  I did some shoulder exercises while I waited for her customary long standing still on the sidewalk letting her eyes get accustomed to the dark before doing her business, after which I gave her a treat and refreshed her water bowl.  At 4 o'clock, I took my 20 mg. pill and ate my oatmeal & berries.

Prednisone, day 15.  I took my 10 mg. pill a little late after our dinner of pizza last night.  I see that I'm less reliable about remembering to take that evening pill than I am w/r/t the morning 20 mg. pill I take with the overnight oatmeal.  My shoulders were a bit achy yesterday and remain so this morning, with an achiness that seems focused on the joints rather than on the surrounding muscles.  I continued to eat like a horse yesterday, satisfying a tremendous appetite brought on by the prednisone  With my weak legs and balance/unsteadiness challenges, weight and glucose increases are a real danger. 

I'm grateful that I have become accustomed and comfortable with being awake in the middle of the night with about 5 hours of sleep behind me, knowing I will probably be able to get more towards morning.  I light my Kitty candle votive light and recall my mother's advice and Bing Crosby's song Count Your Blessings.  "When I'm worried and I can't sleep / I count my blessings instead of sheep / And I fall asleep counting my blessings. / When my bankroll is getting small / I think of when I had none at all / And I fall asleep counting my blessings

Memorial Day, 2024.  In my old age, this summer holiday has become more significant in my life.  For most of my life, I avoided thinking about the military significance of the day, its connection with our nation's long history of bellicosity, of imposing our rulers' will on others through weaponry.  More specifically, I avoided thinking about wars' impacts on my own life, first through my father's experiences on Iwo Jima in World War II and then through my experiences in and after Vietnam.  I'm approaching the end of my 83rd  year now, and the looming, any-day, any-time, end of my life.  The older I get, the more I think of these matters.  I started thinking about them seriously when I began writing my memoir, maybe 15 years ago.  My father was coming to live with Geri and me for the last few years of his life and I realized that my children knew next to nothing about him.  I think Andy told me he only thought of him as Anne had, pretty accurately described him, 'a crabby old man.'  I wanted Sarah and Andy to know there was more to him than his current taciturnity and his former crabbiness, to know that he had a story, a history that helped explain his personality.  That history most importantly included his time in the Marine Corps, his experiences on Iwo Jima, and his lifelong PTSD.  In the course of researching his experiences on Iwo Jima, I came to understand him better myself, came to love him more, and came to regret the almost lifetime abyss between us, his role in creating it, and my role in sustaining it as long as I did.  I also wrote of some of my experiences as a Marine, my time in Vietnam, and the difficult time returning from Vietnam.  I worked on the memoir for a couple of years (I think) and told myself I was writing it for my children, but soon enough it became clear to me that I was writing it for myself, to gather and clarify my thoughts.  By the time I finished, the memoir was about 300 typed pages. (As is clear from these pages, I tend to 'run off at the keyboard.')  I gave a copy to each of the children and to my sister Kitty.  I'm not sure either child read the whole thing.  Kitty probably did but she asked no questions about it, in large part because it triggered some pretty terrible memories in her, memories she shared with me (as I did with her) only late in our lives.  Neither Sarah nor Andy ever asked me any questions about it, either.  This has had the beneficent effect of making me appropriately humble about my skill as a writer and a storyteller.

In any case, as I sit alone early in the morning on this Memorial Day, I'm thinking of the two friends who died in Vietnam, Bill 'Moon' Mullen and J. Forrest Trembley, both pilots.  Bill was an A-4 pilot and the G-2 Intelligence Officer at Wing Headquarters in DaNang.  He was shot down on April 29, 1966, over the Ho Chi Minh Trail in Laos, two weeks before he was scheduled to return to the States.  "J" was one year behind me in the NROTC Unit at Marquette.  He became a Navy A-6 pilot and was shot down over China, returning from a bombing mission north of Hanoi on August 21, 1967.  Both Bill and "J" were reported as 'missing in action' since their bodies had not been recovered.  Bill's wife, Barbara Mullen, wrote a book, Every Effort,  about her terrible experiences trying to get information about her husband and about living with their two sons not knowing whether Bill was alive or dead.  Bill's remains were never discovered.  "J's" partial remains  (and dog tags) were repatriated in March 2005 following identification by mitochondrial DNA and were buried in Arlington National Cemetery on June 1, 2005.  

I think now of how few people I know that have served in Vietnam.  Geri's dear cousin Michael McHale, another Marine, who fell in a punji pit and was poisoned and otherwise injured on patrol and suffered terribly thereafter, as did his parents, especially his mother, Geri's Aunt Evelyn.  My law faculty colleague Tom Cannon, another Marine, was stationed very near the DMZ and North Vietnam border.  Who else?  I can't think of anyone.  We're a dying, vanishing breed.  In my last entry in yesterday's journal, I wrote about being 'anxious and uncertain'' at the end of my tour of duty overseas.  Here is what I wrote in my memoir about that time:

I was finally going home and I wasn’t sure how I felt about it.  It had been a year since I had seen your mother and her family and my family.  I had spent a year in the company of men, not just men, but Marines.  I had lived in a tent, a ‘tin hut’ and BOQs and spent just about every night I wasn’t working at an officers’ club smoking and drinking and gambling and week by week becoming more skeptical of the likelihood of achieving success in our Grand Mission and more contemptuous of our government.  I hadn’t been engaged in close combat, like the grunts and the pilots, but there was no pretending that we were not engaged in the death and destruction business.  I was not a different person from the one who had left a year before, but I was surely a changed person.  I was sadder inside and deeply cynical about our government, its truthfulness and its competence, its good will and its good faith.  I had no faith in the war or in our government or in the government of South Vietnam, even in the middle of 1966.  I still had a deep sense of identification with the Marine Corps, or perhaps more accurately, with Marines, which I have even to this day (‘Once a Marine, always a Marine’ and all that), but I increasingly despaired that any good would come from all the killing.  And, of course, I had just learned that Moon Mullen was (or was not) dead.  I was not ebullient as I left Camp Schwab to return to the States – unsettled and anxious would better describe how I felt.

Memories on this Memorial Day.  Further your affiant saith not. 

Reinhard Heydrich was raised a Catholic.  He was an altar boy, like me, and a regular Mass attendee.  He came from a reasonably wealthy, highly cultured, musical family. He was a talented musician himself. After World War I, he joined various anti-communist and anti-semitic organizations and ultimately the Nazi Party.  When the Nazis took over the government, he ultimately rose to lead the Gestapo and hold high rank in the SS.  He was a moral monster, one of the world's worst human beings.  On this date in 1942, he was the victim of a grenade attack by Czech rebels resisting German occupation.  He died of septicemia from his wound a week later.  In retaliation, Hitler ordered that 10,000 Czechs be murdered.  He later decided simply to annihilate the town of Lidice, thought to have some connection with Heydrich's assassination.  

On the night of June 9–10, German police and SS officials surrounded Lidice. They ordered the approximately 500 residents to gather in the village square. Once the townspeople assembled, members of the SS and police separated men and boys fifteen years and older from the women and younger children. Almost immediately, the Germans shot 173 men and boys at a local farmstead. They then razed the town to the ground. In the following weeks, the Germans executed more than 20 other townspeople from Lidice at a shooting range in Prague. 

A different fate awaited the women and children of Lidice, who were sent to a nearby town. There, they were again separated. Most women and girls 16 years and older were deported to Ravensbrück concentration camp. Of the 203 women from Lidice, 53 died in the Nazi concentration camp system before the end of World War II. Seven women were shot alongside the men of their families. 

Most of Lidice’s children were sent to Lodz (Łódź), a city in German-occupied Poland. There, SS personnel from the SS Race and Settlement Main Office (Rasse und Siedlungshauptamt, RuSHA) screened the children for what they considered to be racial characteristics. They determined that nine of the children had a supposedly Germanic racial background. Selected for Germanization, these children were sent to a group home in German-occupied Poland. There, they were given new German names and taught to speak German. Officials from the Lebensborn program then placed them with adoptive German parents. 

The Germans murdered the approximately 80 other Lidice children whom they had not selected for Germanization. Evidence suggests that this group of children was gassed at the Chelmno killing center. 

A few Lidice children were not sent to Lodz (Łódź). Seven children under the age of one were sent to a German orphanage in Prague. Another seven Lidice children were born in the months that followed the town’s annihilation. Most of these newborns were also placed in orphanages. Of these fourteen very young children, eight survived the war. 

The Nazis annihilated the town of Lidice and destroyed the families who lived there. Not a single Lidice family survived the war without experiencing devastating loss. 

I wish I could encrypt this journal entry so only I could read it because I am doing what, it is said, should never be done: thinking of Israel's actions towards Palestinians and comparing them with those of the Nazis.  Verboten.  Taboo.  Almost blasphemous, but hard to resist looking at Israel's long history at least since the Nakba in 1947-48, the occupation of the West Bank, Gaza, and East Jerusalem in 1967, the war in Lebanon in 1982, and the wars on Gaza, especially the current one.

What strikes me about the connection between Hitler's wishes to murder 10,000 innocent Czechs because of the attack on Heydrich, and the annihilation of Lidice, and the current war on Gaza is the relevance of the principle of Proportionality in the law of war and international humanitarian law.  

International Humanitarian Law (IHL) is built upon certain core principles: military necessity, distinction, humanity, and proportionality. The principle of proportionality, along with these other core principles, is part of customary international law applicable both in international and non-international armed conflicts. The test for proportionality has been codified in Article 51(5)(b) of Additional Protocol I, which prohibits indiscriminate attacks that: “may be expected to cause incidental loss of civilian life, injury to civilians, damage to civilian objects, or a combination thereof, which would be excessive in relation to the concrete and direct military advantage anticipated.” Additionally, the requirement to implement feasible precautions to mitigate risks to civilians in armed conflict is included with these core principles, which are universally recognized as the baseline framework for regulating armed conflict. [From Just Security:  The Principle of Proportionality in the DOD Law of War Manual]

There is a lot written on The Principle of Proportionality, both regulatory and interpretive and there is no point in my wallowing in the weeds on the legalities and legalisms.  What is clear is that the government of Israel has chosen to destroy, in very large measure, the entire civil infrastructure of Gaza and, in the process, to kill, injure, maim, dislocate, and otherwise harm tens of thousands, indeed hundreds of thousands of civilians.  Hospitals, schools, universities, places of worship, power plants, clean water facilities, you name it - Israel has destroyed it to make Gaza unlivable and its people devastated by starvation and disease.  Only God knows how many thousands of Gazan civilians have been killed in this war, and how many civilians are buried under Gaza's rubble.  Israel's defenses are (1) actually we are being very careful not to do what you plainly see us doing, and (2) what about what Hamas did to us on October 7th?  The first is a form of 'I'm not pissing on your shoes; it's raining out" and the latter is classic whataboutism.  Virtually no one takes issue with the judgment that what Hamas did on October 7th was horrific, criminal, unjustifiable under any theory, and justified a retaliatory defensive and protective military response.  Virtually no one denies Israel has a right to defend itself and its people.  The issue is whether Israel's cataclysmic response to October 7th has been, as President Biden admitted, "indiscriminate" and "over the top."  In the judgment of most of the world, the answer is "Yes."  Only Israel, the United States, and perhaps a handful of outliers say "No."  Sometime in the next year or so, the International Court of Justice will render a judgment on whether Israel has violated the International Genocide Convention.  Sometime in the future we may (or may not) have a judgment on whether Benjamin Netanyahu and/or his defense minister Yoav Galland have violated the international laws of war.   In the meantime, perhaps one may be forgiven for thinking of Israel's war on Gazan Palestinians on this anniversary of the assassination attack on Reinhard Heydrich and Hitler's idea of the Principle of Proportionality.

A telling story in this morning's WaPo: Far-right Israeli settlers step up attacks on aid trucks bound for Gaza:  The settler groups use a web of publicly accessible WhatsApp groups to track the trucks and coordinate attacks, providing a window into their activities.  By Loveday Morris





Spoon River Anthology.  I've been re-reading and re-enjoying Edgar Lee Masters' masterpiece.  It's the main reading in my Throne Room Collection.  Masters was a lawyer and the son of a lawyer.  Indeed, he practiced for years in Clarence Darrow's firm.  His lawyer and judge epitaphs reveal that he didn't find anything sanctifying or ennobling in a life in Law.  For example, consider my favorite, John M. Church, who, like the profession as a whole, serves mainly the monied interests of their world in retaining and augmenting their wealth and power, not to pursue justice.

I was attorney for the "Q" / And the Indemnity Company which insured / The owners of the mine.

I pulled the wires with judge and jury, / And the upper courts, to beat the claims / Of the crippled, the widow and orphan, / And made a fortune thereat.

The bar association sang my praises / In a high-flown resolution. / And the floral tributes were many

But the rats devoured my heart / And a snake made a nest in my skull!

or the tiny tyrant of the County Courthouse, Judge Selah Lively, who used his judicial power to gain revenge for his prior insignificance:

Suppose you stood just five feet two, / And had worked your way as a grocery clerk, / Studying law by candlelight / Until you became an attorney at law?

And then suppose by your diligence, /And regular church attendance, /You became attorney for Thomas Rhodes, / Collecting notes and mortgages,

And representing all the widows / in the Probate Court? And through it all /They jeered at your size, and laughed at / your clothes / And your polished boots? And then suppose

You became County Judge? / And Jefferson Howard and Kinsey Keene, / And Harmon Whitney, and all the giants /Who had sneered at you, were forced to stand /Before the bar and say "Your Honor"—

Well, don't you think it was natural / That I made it hard for them?

or the perfidious Circuit Judge:

Take note, passers-by, of the sharp erosions / Eaten in my head-stone by the wind and rain i

Almost as if an intangible Nemesis or hatred / Were marking scores against me, / But to destroy, and not preserve, my memory.

I in life was the Circuit Judge, a maker of notches, / Deciding cases on the points the lawyers scored, / Not on the right of the matter.

O wind and rain, leave my head-stone alone!

For worse than the anger of the wronged, / The curses of the poor, / Was to lie speechless, yet with vision clear, / Seeing that even Hod Putt, the murderer, / Hanged by my sentence, / Was innocent in soul compared with me.

On the other hand, there was the self-righteous, puritanical State's Attorney Fallas, redeemed and become merciful through a terrible accident:

I, the scourge-wielder, balance-wrecker, /Smiter with whips and swords; / I, hater of the breakers of the law; / I, legalist, inexorable and bitter, / Driving the jury to hang the madman, Barry Holden,

Was made as one dead by light too bright for eyes, /And woke to face a Truth with bloody brow:

Steel forceps fumbled by a doctor's hand / Against my boy's head as he entered life /Made him an idiot.

I turned to books of science / To care for him.

That's how the world of those whose minds are sick /Became my work in life, and all my world.

Poor ruined boy! You were, at last, the potter / And I and all my deeds of charity / The vessels of your hand.


Major accomplishment:  I took Rachel out for a walk from the house to the cul de sac, my first walk down our street in probably more than a year.  The real accomplishment was getting over my false pride and embarrassment about relying on a rollator.  Or was it simply laziness, lethargy, and/or lassitude that has kept me indoors in my chair for so long?  In any case, it felt good to be out walking and it reminded me again of what an upper-class neighborhood we live in, with large houses on large lots that are beautifully landscaped, a treehuggers eden.

Sunday, May 26, 2024

5/26/24

 Sunday, May 26, 2024

In bed at 9 p.m. and up at 2:20 to let Lilly out, refill the water bottle,t and turn the slow cooker down to "warm."  Back to bed and awake at 3;45, back up at 4:05.  Let Lilly out again and listened with Merlin to a loudly-singing robin, a cardinal, and (!) a pine siskin which Merlin tells me is "rare," but this sounding seems to confirm my earlier tentative sightings at the bird feeders.

Prednisone, day 14.  I took my 20 mg. pill with oatmeal & berries at 5 a.m.  As usual, acid indigestion followed.

Major accomplishments: (1) Retiring to my bed at night for the first time in months and enjoying a reasonably full night's sleep. (2) Major progress tidying up my bedroom which had become a major mess during my PMR.

Notes for PM&R visit on 5/29.  (1) Clear up x-ray issue re one shoulder/two shoulders (2) Pain/discomfort in right hip even lying in bed. (3) Still some discomfort in both shoulders despite prednisone; osteo? (3) What to expect, if anything, re scheduled PT and OT appointments in light of PMR diagnosis.  Should I cnacel?

Notes for Dr. Ryzka visit on 6/3.  (1) Indigestion, misoprostol? Omeprazole? Magnesium or aluminum based antacids? History of GERD.  (2)  Same as (2a0 and (3), above.  

Facebook posting today.  Charles D. Clausen, shared with friends:

Like me, Phil Klay, who wrote this piece, is a former Marine officer.  He was born 42 years after me and was sent to Iraq 42 years after I was sent to Vietnam.  Like me, he is still troubled by the moral failures that overlay the military failures in those wars and thinks of how badly our nation, and especially all those young Marines, soldiers, sailors, and airmen, were misled and disserved by our political leaders.  I was touched by his concluding listing of all the reasons why they served and why they died, and why we remember them this weekend along with those who fought successfully  to end slavery in America and Fascism/Nazism in the world.

Opinion | How Should We Honor the Dead of Our Failed Wars?  We owe it to the dead to remember what mattered to them, and the ideals they held, . . . 

His concluding paragraph struck home with me: 

 This year, when I remember them, I will not just remember who they were, the shreds of memory dredged up from past decades. I will remember why they died. All the reasons they died. Because they believed in America. Because America forgot about them. Because they were trying to force-feed a different way of life to people from a different country and culture. Because they wanted to look after their Marines. Because the mission was always hopeless. Because America could be a force for good in the world. Because Presidents Bush, Obama, Trump and Biden didn’t have much of a plan. Because it’s a dangerous world, and somebody’s got to do the killing. Because of college money. Because the Marine Corps is cool as hell. Because they saw “Full Metal Jacket” and wanted to be Joker. Or Animal Mother. Because the war might offer a new hope for Iraq, for Afghanistan. Because we earned others’ hatred, with our cruelty and indifference and carelessness and hubris. Because America was still worth dying for.

 

A snapshot I took almost 60 years ago that still breaks my heart

WTF's with Biden, Netanyahu, and Israel?  This morning's newspapers are full of stories about the relationship between Israel and the U.S. and its damaging effects on U.S. national and international interests.  The WaPo lead headline is "U.S. silent as global condemnation of Israel’s Rafah offensive grows."  The lead op-ed is by Senator Patrick Leahy: "I created the Leahy law. It should be applied to Israel: Requiring Israel to respect human rights does not imply “moral equivalence” with Hamas."  The long insulting and condescending behavior by Netanyahu towards Barack Obama is described in another piece: "Netanyahu’s split with Biden and the Democrats was years in the making: The Israeli leader’s longtime strategy of aligning with the GOP has helped shatter the American consensus behind Israel."  Headlines in the NYTimes read "Condemnation Slows, but Does Not Stall, Israel’s Assault on Rafah" and "As Rafah Offensive Grinds On, Hunger in Gaza Spirals:  Aid officials and health experts expect famine this month unless Israel lifts barriers to aid, the fighting stops and vital services are restored."

I have to believe, probably naïvely, that most Americans are appalled by the suffering of Palestinian civilians, especially children, under the siege imposed on them by Israel, leading to famine and disease. This is  in addition to the "indiscriminate" and "over the top"(Biden's words) destruction by bombardment of most of Gaza's infrastructure.  At the same press engagement where Biden referred to Jsrael's conduct in Gaza being "over the top," he said "There are a lot of innocent people who are starving, a lot of innocent people who are in trouble and dying, and it's got to stop.  Number One."  Netanyahu has kissed off American Democrats, leftists, and progressives for years, starting at least when he accepted John Beohner's invitation to address Congress and urge rejection of Obama's nuclear deal with Iran.  Obama reportedly told Ben Rhodes after his Oval Office meeting with Netanyahu that Netanyahu "pee'd on my leg," i.e., treated him condescendingly, contemptuously, and deceitfully as in "don't piss on my shoes and tell me it's raining out."  Biden was Obama's VP and was privy to all this, so why now does he continue to eat Netanyahy's shit?  Why does he tie America's interests so tightly to Israel's and Netanyahu's interests?  What does Biden or the U.S. get in return that makes the trade-offs worth it for him or the U.S.?  We get the advantages of a close relationship with Israel's intelligence services and their sources throughout the Middle East and the world, but quaere how good are those services considering the massive failure on October 7th?  Beyond that, what of the moral issues about the treatment of Palestinians both in the West Bank and in Gaza?  It seems to me that it can't seriously be denied that Israel has long been a racist, apartheid state, increasingly a pariah state, supported in its pernicious policies and practices principally by the United States and now by Joe Biden.  Why?  What does Biden get out of it but a deep fissure in his own political base in an existential election year?  What does the U.S. get out of it except the world's contempt for its hypocrisy?

Michael Sugrue has died at age 66.  I had never heard of him until today but I read his obituary in the NYTimes.  He has a channel on YouTube of a great many of his lectures at Princeton about the history of Western Thought.  I watched the one on Don Quixote today and enjoyed it and learned from it.  I read some but not all of the novel many years ago, and enjoyed what I read although I agree with Sugrue's judgment that the book, like the great Moby Dick, all of which I did read, would have been twice as good if it had been half as long.  In any event, I'm sure that, now that I have been introduced to his lectures, I will enjoy many more of them.

The obituary quotes Sugrue quoting a line from T.. S. Eliot's Burnt Norton ("“The roses had the look of flowers that are looked at.”) that sent me reading Burnt Norton again and trying to understand it.  A passage in the first section of the poem grabbed me: "Footfalls echo in the memory / Down the passage which we did not take / Towards the door we never opened / Into the rose-garden."  How often I have wondered about decisions I made in my life, passages not taken, doors not opened, and how those decisions shaped my life.  How exquisitely Eliot expresses this.  (And, alas, as I read an analysis of the poem online, what do I see between paragraphs of the analysis but a photo of my ubiquitous former law student David Gruber flashing his fabulous smite and beckoning the injured with "One call, that's all!"  Does he never tire of seeing his face everywhere?  Does Narcissus not need ever more reflections to worship?)

Geri attended Ellis' Spring ballet performance today with David and Sharon.

Today is the anniversary of the firebombing of Tokyo in 1945.  Also, the day in 1966 when a Buddhist monk set himself on fire in Hué.  I was at the end of my time at Camp Schwab on the north end of Okinawa, realizing yet again that this war was not going to turn out well for the US.  The writing was on the wall.  I was anxious and uncertain about my return to the States, an anxiety that turned out to be prescient in light of the culture shock and worse that lay ahead.

Saturday, May 25, 2024

5/25/24

 Saturday, May 25, 2024

At 6:26, as I eat my oatmeal and digest my prednisone, the sun is at an elevation of 11°, heading 71°ESE, shining directly on our sunroom glider and into the dining room up to the sunroom.  It's the first day of the Memorial Day weekend, the one the weatherman says is the "pick day" of the weekend, sunny, warm, calm, and dry.  A good day to visit Wood National Cemetery, pay my respects, enjoy its quietude, its simple, elegant symmetries, and its trees.

Prednisone, day 13.  I declined Geri's thoughtful suggestion that I try sleeping in my bed last night and stayed in my recliner with insomnia until about 2 a.m. when I fell asleep until about 4 and then repaired to my bed, where I slept until a little before 6.  I had no significant shoulder pain and no significant difficulty getting out of bed, but I was surprised that I had hip discomfort.  I can't remember whether it was in both hips or only one.  Tonight I should try sleeping the entire night in bed.



Major accomplishments: (1) Sleeping the last part of the night in bed rather than on the recliner. (2) Lymphedema reduction after days of wearing compression socks again plus more walking. (3) I moved my Cuban oregano potted plants outdoors to breathe and get some real sunshine, a seasonal rite of passage. (3) I took a regrettably short walk with Judy but struck up a long conversation on the street with my Lebanese-American neighbor, Ghassan Madjalani, married to his Scottish wife, and walking his bull mastiff Athena.l  I'll have to find out how to spell his name on the village tax rolls.





Yesterday marked 6 months since my last cup of coffee, glass of wine or any alcohol, and any carbonated drink.  The abstinence was occasioned by my trip to the VA emergency room in very severe pain, with Andy driving me and accompanying me there for hours,  I thought it must have been a kidney stone or perhaps a particularly bad UTI, but no, after blood and urine tests and a CT scan, it turned out to be "a flare" of my long-term interstitial cystitis.  A later cystoscopy revealed the recurrence of Hunner's lesions in my bladder, fulgurated in the VA outpatient surgery on March 5th.  Since the surgery, all my chronic pelvic pain has disappeared, for almost 12 weeks.  For half a year, my fluid intake has been restricted to water, an occasional cup of herbal tea, and some milk in my cereal.  Do I dare have some coffee in the mornings, some wine in the evenings, or a Coke or ginger ale during the day, after the 6 months of abstinence?  Or would that be reinviting stress and insult on my bladder lining?  Could I just enjoy these beverages in moderation, or am I fooling myself?  I was a coffee abuser and a wine abuser most of my adult life, enjoying several cups of strong coffee every morning to perk up, and usually a couple glasses of wine (or more) each night to wind down.  An oenophile or just another alcohol abuser, like so many men in my family, especially the war veterans, my Dad and me in the Marines, Uncle Jim in the Navy, Uncle Bud in the Army and the Manhattan Project, and Uncle Bim in the Army Air Corps in Europe.  All of us drinkers, though Aunt Marie forced Bim to become a teetotaler.  Even my strong coffee habit I developed from my time on the USS Coney, DDE 508, on the North Atlantic, coping with sleep-disrupting at sea midwatches, etc.   Surprise, surprise - my bladder lining developed ulcers.  My bad.  Should I wait until my next cystoscopy to see if any of the lesions remain or recurred?

One of the wrongest thoughts ever thought. This afternoon  I started to watch the inaugural Hennessy Lecture by Professor Sir Simon Schama, "Bad Chaps, Jews, and the Failure of British Decency: Antisemitism in Historical Perspective.   In his introductory remarks, Schama noted that "For Sir Thomas Carlyle, the damning symptom of the Jews who were, in Carlyle's words, a people terrible from the beginning, was that they lacked a sense of humor.  Of course, Carlyle's own joke book was on the thin side."  Schama followed with this question to the host who introduced him.  "What's the difference between a Jewish pessimist and a Jewish optimist?  The Jewish pessimist moans 'things couldn't possibly get worse'  The Jewish optimist replies "Oh, yes they can!" Quaere: how could anybody purporting to know anything at all about Jews say they have no sense of humor?  What does it say of Carlyle himself?

Why am I drawn to cemeteries?   I made my now customary Memorial Day weekend visit to Wood National Cemetery today.  There were only 4 people in the cemetery other than me, 3 folks apparently visiting a particular gravesite plus an old Army veteran, perhaps a resident of one of the VA domiciliaries in the Old Soldiers Home.  We easily chatted a bit and wished each other well and I was reminded once again of the sense of relationship, almost a kinship, that so many vets feel at this huge VA complex on the rise west of the Brewers' ballpark.  There are more than more than 35,000 gravesites in the cemetery and on Memorial Day, every one of them has a little American flag planted in front of it. by a volunteer.  35,000!  Also, the very few roads within the cemetery are lined with flagpoles supporting larger flags.  It's quite a sight to see and always impresses me.  I'm not a flag waver myself and in fact, I have a real antipathy to flag waving.  To probably most of my fellow citizens, the flag symbolizes, as it did for Superman, 'truth, justice, and the American Way," democracy, freedom, Iwo Jima, and all that.  To me, it has come to symbolize Vietnam, Iraq, and Afghanistan, the protection of markets and natural resources, and imperialism.  Nonetheless, it warms my heart to see the effort by so many volunteers that went into planting 35,000 little flags in front of the graves of former soldiers, Marines, sailors, airmen, and Coast Guardsmen (and women!)  There are veterans of all American wars since 1812 in the cemetery, including of course Vietnam.  If the cemetery were still open to new interments, I would choose to be buried there, but it's not.  Last year I was at the VA Medical Center on average twice every three weeks or once every 10 days.  On almost all of those visits, I came to the hospital through the cemetery rather than through the main entrance.  Why?  Why has it become such a special place for me?  For that matter, why am I so fond of little country cemeteries which I find all over SE Wisconsin.  St. Finbar's cemetery, the bedraggled little cemetery on County O north of Saukville, the little graveyard in River Hills, tiny graveyards sprinkled here, there, and everywhere.  I have found out that there is a name for people like me: taphophiles.

I don't think my interest in cemeteries is morbid or macabre.  They don't make me sad or fearful or beget negative feelings.  I think I'm drawn to the quiet majesty of them, to a serenity I feel in them, to the sense of history and transience, maybe to Proust's recherche du temps perdu or Remembrance of Times Past,  and a gentle reminder of memento homo et quia pulvis es.  These country graveyards and national cemeteries are also testaments that someone cared enough for the decedents to mark their final resting place.  In the larger cemeteries, we find in addition to simple markers and headstones, mausoleums and stately tombs for 'the swells,' for captains of industry and possessors of great wealth.  Forest Home Cemetery where my unembalmed remains will be buried in a cardboard box is filled with magnificent tombs, and mausoleums of the Uihleins (Schlitz),  Melms & Pabsts (Pabst), and Blatz's,  Alexander Mitchell, Charles Bradley, Pfisters and Vogels,  Harnischfegers and Falks, the high and mighty.  In the national cemetery, all the headstones are in the same modest style.  "The boast of heraldry, the pomp of pow'r, / And all that beauty, all that wealth e'er gave, / Awaits alike the inevitable hour. /   The paths of glory lead but to the grave."




Friday, May 24, 2024

5/24/24

 Friday, May 24, 2024

I fell asleep shortly after 9 during LO'C, up at 3:25. At about 5:30, I dozed off again until 6:45 when I let Lilly out and listened, with Merlin, to the chickadees, robins, goldfinches, house finches, cowbirds, and cardinals.

Song sparrow

LTMW at the song sparrow or pine siskin loading up again on nesting material from our big cotton ball.


Pine Siskin

Prednisone, day 12.  I took my initial 10 mg. pill with dinner last night around 7 p.m., and my 20 mg. pill with oatmeal, raspberries & blueberries around 4 a.m.  My shoulders were very slightly painful as I awoke, but with good ROM.

Major accomplishment;  (1) I mounted and inaugurated the toilet riser.  It's not as secure as I had hoped but seems to be OK.  (2) I took a walk outside with Judy, up to Sequoia, back around to our mailbox, and back to the garage.  Serendipity: I ran into Shirly and Tom and had a nice chat.  Small world.

I'm grateful for having been prompted by unknown others to include a thankfulness entry in my journal, in my conscious life.  When I stopped journaling during the darkest days and nights of PMR, I was too overtaken by the pain and disability to focus on any element of gratitude in my life.  I thought each night how death was preferable to living as I was living, facing an unknown but perhaps worsening and unendurable future.  But even then, while regularly thinking about ways to end the misery, the thought that always brought me up short was that I couldn't do anything cruel and traumatic to Geri.  I would have to endure the pain and hopelessness rather than inflict pain on her.  I wonder how many of us, in extremis, are deterred from ending their lives because of concern for another, or for others.  Albert Camus infamously posited that “There is but one truly serious philosophical problem and that is suicide. Judging whether life is or is not worth living amounts to answering the fundamental question of philosophy. All the rest — whether or not the world has three dimensions, whether the mind has nine or twelve categories — comes afterward. These are games; one must first answer.”  The ecclesiast Fulton Sheen in his weekly television program purpored to answer Camus with "Life Is Worth Living."  But Camus and Sheen were dealing with competing underlying philosophical/theological assumptions that life is absurd (Camus) and that we are all children of a loving, redeeming, saving God (Sheen).  I'm thinking of the simpler problem of inescapable pain and conscious helplessness and the necessity of weighing whether indeed life is worth living, or whether for a given person in a given set of extreme circumstances, the burden of life outweighs all available benefits when persistent pain deprives us not only of ease but also of all agency.   I think of my Aunt Mary Healy, in her 90s, in the nursing home, demented and wanting to die, saying "God, I'm ready.  What's the problem?"  In any event, for the person ready to give it up, to end the journey, there is the practical problem of how to do it, where to do it, when to do it, etc.  I think of Ernest Hemingway, in the entrance foyer of his home in Idaho that he shared with his wife Mary, taking his favorite shotgun, putting it to his head, and blowing his brains out.  The sound of the gunshot woke his wife Mary in the bedroom and she discovered his body.  He was, of course, mentally in extremis, but what did this act say of his concern for Mary?  And, in any event, why am I thinking of these matters at 5 in the morning while eating my oatmeal and wondering whether I can nab another hour or so of sleep.  I'm grateful that I'm not in extremis and that I seem to love my Geri more than Hemingway loved his Mary.  Lights out.

Harold Arnett,” from Spoon River Anthology

I LEANED against the mantel, sick, sick, / Thinking of my failure, looking into the abysm, / Weak from the noon-day heat.

A church bell sounded mournfully far away, / I heard the cry of a baby, / And the coughing of John Yarnell, / Bed-ridden, feverish, feverish, dying,

Then the violent voice of my wife: / “Watch out, the potatoes are burning!” / I smelled them . . . then there was irresistible disgust.

I pulled the trigger . . . blackness . . . light . . . / Unspeakable regret . . . fumbling for the world again.

Too late! Thus I came here,

With lungs for breathing . . . one cannot breathe here with lungs, / Though one must breathe

Of what use is it To rid one’s self of the world, /When no soul may ever escape the eternal destiny of life?

There are many poems about suicide.  The one I thought of most was the humorous(?) one by Dorothy Parker:

Resumé

Razors pain you; / Rivers are damp; / Acids stain you; / And drugs cause cramps.

Guns aren’t lawful; / Nooses give; / Gas smells awful; / You might as well live.

. . . . 

Parker dismissed suicide by shooting simply because it wouldn't be lawful, disregarding the fact that it is necessarily messy, sometimes very messy (Ernest Hemingway!)  Stanley Kunitz wrote about the effect of suicide on the suicide's survivors.

The Portrait

My mother never forgave my father / for killing himself, / especially at such an awkward time

and in a public park, / that spring / when I was waiting to be born.

She locked his name / in her deepest cabinet /and would not let him out,  / though I could hear him thumping.

When I came down from the attic / with the pastel portrait in my hand / of a long-lipped stranger / with a brave mustache / and deep brown level eyes,

she ripped it into shreds / without a single word / and slapped me hard.

In my sixty-fourth year / I can feel my cheek / still burning.

. . . 

Thus I always feared the effect of suicide on my survivors, most especially, on G.  I am struck by Kunitz's father doing himself in "in a public park," reminding me of my thoughts to shoot myself in my car, parked along the lakefront, away from home, to spare G. the fate of Mary Hemingway.  

Suicide is a taboo subject.  I suspect that many fewer people are willing to admit they have contemplated it than in fact have, but perhaps I am wrong.  I think mainly of older people, very sick people, people in untreatable pain, and of course, lonely people.  There are many such people and I have to believe that many of them at least think of 'ending it all.'  Presumably, most of them don't do it and we have to wonder why.  There is a stigma to suicide, of course.  The Catholic Church has always taught that suicide is a sin.  Suicides are refused burial in consecrated Catholic cemeteries, although this practice has become more 'pastoral' with a greater understanding of mental illness and its effect on moral responsibility.  In the U.S., although no state permits euthanasia, nine states and the District of Columbia permit physician-assisted suicides.  I have long believed that suicide is the ultimate right, the ultimate personal freedom or exercise of autonomy, as is choosing not to die,  Perhaps that is why I was fascinated by Peter Freuchen's book Eskimo, with its description of families leaving their elderly to die alone in igloos when they can no longer keep up with the family's hunt for food, and why I have watched more than once the Japanese movies The Ballad of Narayama (1983) and Plan 75 (2023).  Almost everybody accepts that it is better, and more caring, to euthanize an animal that is irremediably suffering than to let its suffering continue.  Why is not the same true for us humans?  The Church has long accepted the Principle of Double Effect to determine when an action that has two effects, one good and one evil, may still be chosen without sin. Thomas Aquinas used it to show that killing in self-defense is justified.  Why not extend it to suicide?  The bad effect (only arguably) would be the termination of a human life; the good effect would be the end of a human's severe suffering.  The opposing argument would be, I suppose that an act that is unavoidably the killing of a human being is an intrinsically bad/evil act that can never be used to justify the good which would spring from it, i.e., the end of pure suffering.   But, as mentioned previously, the Church easily allows the killing of human beings in the case of self-defense and excuses such killing by the thousands in the case of the so-called "just wars."  Why the difference for individual suicides, or even euthanasia?

That we should feel shame or guilt in admitting to thinking about suicide is attributable to either a false sense of weakness or an absence of caring for the survivors.  It's hard for me to think that there is anything particularly "weak" about shooting oneself or otherwise bringing about one's own death.  Quite the opposite would seem to be true.  Plus, we don't ask a dog run over by a car to 'stiff upper lip it' through painful death throes, why humans?  On the other hand, we may well responsibly have a sense of shame or guilt because of the effect of the suicide on our survivors, our loved ones.  I think again of Ernest Hemingway's voluntary shotgun blast to his head in circumstances where his wife Mary would be sure to discover the gruesome remains.  So again I come to the conclusion that what keeps many people from suicide is not their fear of death or desire to prolong their life, but rather concern over the psychological, emotional, and spiritual effects on the survivors.

One Month Age:  "Another rough night, multiple PSs, considerable pain in shoulders and hands, wrists.  Swollen right hand.   Meeting with Dr. Chatt was not what I hoped for but pretty much what I expected.  One referral after another but basically samo samo: more Tylenol, more Diclofenac, much more physical therapy in saecula saeculorum.  

One Year Ago:   "I picked up Reinhold Niebuhr, An Interpretation of Christian Ethics (1935). this morning as part of my project of clearing up the rat's nest around my tv room recliner.  I bought the book many years ago and it is heavily highlighted, underlined, checkmarked, and post-it-noted.  What caught my attention on the page (114) that flipped open was the sentence  "The Christian who lives in and benefits from a society in which coercive economic and political relationships are taken for granted, all of which are contrary to the love absolutism of the gospels, cannot arbitrarily introduce the uncompromising ethic of the gospel [i.e., non-violence/pacifism] into one particular issue.  It calls to mind the American Evangelicals and their embrace of Donald Trump, Trumpism, and right-wing Republicanism, but also my failures as one who by nature or nurture tends toward agnostic or atheistic Christian socialism.  How hard it is to be a Christian, indeed, how impossible it is, as reflected in the title of  Niebuhr's Chapter 4: "The Relevance of an Impossible Ethical Ideal."

Chronic pelvic pain, interstitial cystitis, etc.  In addition to Neibuhr, I also pulled out an old Walmart notebook in which I had written notes about the chronic pain I was experiencing back in March and April 2009 and I don't know for how long before that.  Partial notes from 3/26/2009: "intermittent pain during the night... received a call from Dr. Silbar's office to schedule 'a look inside your bladder' on 4/1.  I informed the caller of my bad experience at Froederdt with the urodynamics test.  I don't know whether trainee-nurse was particularly ham-handed or whether the intense pain was a result of my bladder-urethra-prostate-perinium-penis anatomy but I hope never to have a similar experience. . . By 2:30, the pain has increased to 5/6, L.T. and perineal, walking becoming painful. " There is also a note about zonking out on amitryptiline as I did several weeks ago again.   I think the CPP started 20 years ago, when I was still at The House of Peace.  The good old days."

. . . .

Wow, I've had how many years of bad chronic pain problems, enough to beset me during two periods with suicidal ideation.